The Desperate Expat Wife has succumbed. Once an addict always an addict. She has been so good, trying hard for years – granted with the occasional relapse. She has tried for the sake of her family, for the sake of her own health, to prove to herself that she could – but hélas, in the end she couldn’t.
Her relapses have taken her far away, to different worlds and different times – the roaring twenties and the psychedelic seventies, New York, England – and Denmark, funnily enough. Floating above an awfully long bridge where strange things happen, and past windows of stately manors and NYC office buildings. Each experience putting her in very different states of mind, all very fulfilling.
The aforementioned bridge connects Denmark and Sweden in the excellent Nordic Noir The Bridge. Behind the windows, the Crawleys and Sterling, Cooper, Draper and Pryce live, love, work and quarrel with the utmost elegance and down to the last drop, at Downton Abbey and on Madison Avenue respectively. She is amused by, yet secretly relates to, the astonishing bluntness of detective Saga Norén, adores the Dowager Countess beyond words (best leave the words to the queen of mean anyhow), and is desperate to time travel to every decade of Mad Men’s New York. (Well, any time in New York really, but that’s a different matter.)
“- Would you like the recipe? – No, it wasn’t tasty.” Saga Norén
“Principles are like prayers. Noble, of course, but awkward at a party.” – The Dowager Countess
But at the end of the day, detectives and lords and mad men just weren’t enough. She needed more. Netflix is the new drug. She’s breaking bad. No longer the good wife to the family guy. She can’t curb her Netflix enthusiasm. It’s justified – she’s waited a long time, missing out on the serial fun. And then there’s old fun – which series have stood the test of time? Six Feet Under for sure. And on the same note, how about Cold Feet? And her all time favourite The Sopranos? Some actors certainly have stood the test of time; take Jane Fonda, Lily Tomlin, Martin Sheen and Sam Waterston in Grace and Frankie. How refreshing with a cast their age! And how refreshing that the husbands leave the wives – for each other – at their age!
It’s actually doubly justified, being a desperate expat wife. Away from home, travelling spouse, juggling of roles – Netflix nights are well deserved! Besides, sharing a good series, talking about it, is actually quality time together as well. And these are autumn nights – dark and rainy like a Nordic noir outside, warmer and cosier than Downton Abbey (upstairs mind you) inside!
Though it does give her one more reason to be desperate: So many good series so little time! Any recommendations for the Desperate Expat Wife’s Netflix nights?
By Unni Holtedahl, October 2015